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Posted in English, Stories and Tales, Travel diary, World Bike Trip with tags , , on 2010-05-12 by candycactus

“A society whose structure is based on mere need, whether physiological or psychological, must breed conflict, confusion, and misery. Society is the projection of yourself in relation with another, in which the need and the use are predominant. When you use another for your need, physically or psychologically in actuality there is no relationship at all; you really have no contact with the other, no communion with the other. How can you have communion with the other, when the other is used as apiece of furniture, for your convenience and comfort? So it is essential to understand the significance of relationship in daily life”. (Krishnamurti, On Relationship, 45).

this is exactly what I think about the societies in the west, but also about these faraway places where foreigners intrude – the daily life becomes functionalised and drives us out of relationships. i guess this understanding of relationship made me enjoy my travels on a bike so much. on a bike as a nomad i would arrive in a village or anywhere and would have a blank role, like the one of a joker. not of a neighbor, vendor, not of the functionalized tourist, as it happens in the places where they become a critical mass. and this opened up relationships in the sense of krishnamurti – no image beforehand, unprecedented, everyone would be dragged out of routine and had to deal in a spontaneous, “never had it before” way. exactly this – lack of relationships, lack of playing drives me out of europe and out of otherwise functionalised places where roles are prescribed already. i think it is isolation, it is why i resist and why i want to dwell in a role of a joker – to be unpredictable for myself and for the others, so to be the reason to step out, out of the role, routine, from isolation to relationship.

whaa, i am dramatical cactus today!